If I haven’t had the opportunity to say this to you, let me say it now: “Welcome to the Breastfeeding School website!”
One of my favorite authors of all-time, Dr. Wayne Dyer, taught me that intention plays a major role in how creativity is put out into the world and how it’s received. When it comes from a good place, people can feel it and be receptive to it.
So, I wanted to share with you my 10 quick reasons for why I started this Breastfeeding School website.
1. I feel called to do it
I feel called to create this site and to create the course Breastfeeding School and to share it with you.
I’ve been thinking about you, your pregnancy journey and your baby for many months. And I just want to reach out and tell you that I’m here for you both.
2. I want to be the voice of babies who are about to be born and those who were recently born
I know, I know, before you run for the hills, hear me out. You know how there are advocates for people who are in pain, the poor, the marginalized, those who suffer injustices, etc.?
Well, I want to be that voice for babies. Why? Because out of all the people in the world without a voice, babies are the most vulnerable because they can’t talk to their caregivers to ask for their needs.
I am a breastfeeding advocate for all babies.
I want to share with you what SCIENCE has said is the most optimal way to be fed. You guessed it— it’s breastfeeding.
I want to encourage moms to breastfeed because if babies could talk that’s what they would request: breast milk.
And as a matter of fact, babies DO have ways that they communicate that they want breast milk whether it’s through crying, opening their mouths and trying to suck your face cheek, your shoulder, your tummy or your breast, by putting their hands or fingers in their mouth, by having a sign language sign, by having a code word for breast milk, saying breastmilk, or even asking for breastmilk when they’re older.
We can’t use the excuses that “babies don’t know what they need” or “the baby isn’t asking for breast milk” to ignore this nutritional need.
3. I want to support you as a woman
There is something super beautiful about women helping women.
And it’s not always easy to reach out to women who you don’t know and offer them help.
Why? Because more often than not, most of us, are plagued by our worry that we don’t have anything to offer someone else.
Our self-sabotaging or our perfectionistic tendencies get in the way.
But we’re all different. And what may be a strong suit for you, might not be a strong suit for someone else. And vice versa.
I want to uplift you. I want to help you in every way I can to have a beautiful, long, joyous, connection-filled life. And in many ways, it starts when you start a family because family is forever. Your kids will be with you, hopefully, forever.
And while the connections of the heart are of utmost importance. So is your health. And breastfeeding will make you healthier by keeping diseases that you would rather not think about, much less mention, at bay.
You are my sister in this global family. You are that precious baby’s mother and I want to help you.
4. I want to support you as a mother
Look, none of us have this mothering thing all together.
A couple of days ago, I ran into a good friend from middle school and she said, you must have this mothering thing all together because you were always so intelligent.
It was a nice gesture for her to say that… but just because she was seeing my kids quietly eating their chicken and waffles didn’t mean that I have my shiz all together. LOL. 😉 They’re just foodies like me who happen to really enjoy restaurants. LOL.
But, because I value the help that other people give me on my mothering journey, I want to help YOU out. After all, it takes a village.
We may not have all the time we want to do all the things we want to do, but when the desire to help another mom arises, it truly is from the bottom of our hearts.
And as a sister, as a friend, let me just say this:
You will not stop being you “just because” you became a mom, BUT, motherhood will greatly define you. And, that shouldn’t scare you.
On the contrary:
You should be super honored that someone thought of you SO highly, that they bestowed upon you the blessing of becoming a mother.
Why am I saying this?
Because I will help you out as a woman and as a mother, but I want to remind you of how memories, life and connection work.
Do me a favor.
Think about your own mother for just a second.
What do you think of when I mention that word – mother? And when you think of her?
A) Think about her way of showing you that she’s there, that she loves you and that she cares about you? Or do you maybe think of how you yearn for her to share that love, care for you and increase her presence in your life?
B) When thinking about the word mother and of her, do you think about her career, the accomplishments she received, the grades she got, the degrees she had, what her colleagues thought of her and what her friends thought of her?
You thought of A, right?
I don’t know about you, but most people hardly remember option B when they do this exercise. No disrespect to your mom, but who cares what her career was, right?
Why don’t we care? Because we’re connection-driven beings, not accolade-admiring beings.
And your little one will love you for being their mommy more than they will because of how high you climbed the corporate ladder.
Can you be an accomplished career woman? For sure. Just don’t forget that you’re a mom. And that the first three months (or longer) that your baby is out of the womb, is what’s known as the 4th trimester, according to some medical professionals. And what that means is that your baby yearns to be connected to you 24/7 like they were inside the womb. So wanting to disengage from them and minimize your role in their life is unnatural.
5. I have been breastfeeding for the past 5 1/2 years
I have more than 5 and a half years of experience in the breastfeeding department.
I’ve collectively breastfed my kids for this long.
Throughout this time, I’ve acquired quite a bit of breastfeeding experience in day-to-day life, traveling, being a work-outside-the-home mom, being a stay-at-home mom, breastfeeding while pregnant and the list goes on and on.
I’d love to share this experience with you to make your life as a breastfeeding mom easier and more enjoyable.
6. I am still breastfeeding one of my kids
Yep, you read that right. I have been breastfeeding for the past 5 and a half years+ and I’m still breastfeeding one of my children.
That just comes to show that breastfeeding has become so second-nature to me, that I don’t mind that I’ve been breastfeeding this long.
I’ve seen the many benefits that my kids have gotten as a result of being breastfed and to me, it makes it all worth it.
7. I wasn’t breastfed
And you’re wondering, who cares? And you’re right, in the grand scheme of things it doesn’t matter, but, I’ve seen a difference in the physical and emotional health of people who were breastfed and those who weren’t.
So, I’m paying it forward by helping you breastfeed your baby successfully so that he/she gets the benefits that some of us, lacked when we were born, are lacking right now and will forever lack.
8. Your mom, sister, grandma, aunt, cousin and best friend will most likely let you down
As lovely as these ladies are, it pains me to say that if you’re like most of the ladies I know, waiting for moms (any mom) to talk to you about breastfeeding, which sadly STILL seems to be a taboo topic, is pretty much like wasting your time.
Gosh! Your mom probably didn’t even want to have the birds and bees talk with you. So talking about your privates when you become a mom ain’t happening any time soon.
Plus, they maybe don’t want to burst your bubble and let you in on how demanding breastfeeding is. They just let you keep on dreaming.
9. Breastfeeding is dang difficult
NOBODY in our regular life can prepare you for the rude awakening that breastfeeding is. It’s INCREDIBLY hard.
Especially when people don’t give you a warning here or there. They just remain quiet.
And once you realize how difficult it is, you’re usually in the THICK of it. The GOOEY THICK of it, actually.
And odds are, that you’re the only one that you know in your life that is breastfeeding a baby at that same time. So breastfeeding also becomes lonely and isolating.
But I created this site because I don’t want you to feel alone. I also created a FREE course to give you a heads up about the difficulties of breastfeeding called Breastfeed Your Baby Successfully which you can sign up by clicking here and Breastfeeding School.
10. I can understand your breastfeeding challenges better than most health professionals (if not all of them). 😉 And nope, I’m not bragging.
I am a mom. PERIOD. I’m not a nurse, not a doula, not a lactation consultant, not a OB-GYN and not a general doctor. I’m “just a mom.” But you know what!? In this case, being “just a mom” is the BEST thing that could have ever happened to me!
1) Because I love being a mom (more than any profession or any of the educational degrees I have).
2) Because I’m a mom just like YOU. That is our connection point. That’s what you and I have in common. And if you’re reading this blog, you’re most likely not a health professional either. So, high five to being moms who care about the well-being of our babies and of ourselves but aren’t in the healthcare profession. =)
3) The main thing that I’m offering through this blog is my ability to empathize with you and to teach you the ins and outs of the STEEP learning curve that breastfeeding is. And it’s even steeper when you’re NOT a health professional because you don’t have that knowledge to fall back on. But thank goodness for the ability to research.
And it’s even more desolate (socially painful) when the ladies who have been moms just left you to your own devices… which may not be that many if you recently became a mom for the first time.
But we all start from square one. And you can breastfeed your baby successfully.
I see you. I feel you. And I know the struggle can be super real. I’m here to guide you, to support you and to cheer you on.
To Wrap Up
I am smiling as I type that I’m SUPER happy that you’re here. That I can help you. That I can help your baby.
So please, if you haven’t already, sign up for the FREE breastfeeding course called Breastfeed Your Baby Successfully.
Make yourself feel at home. Make this site be your nursing chair on the internet.
I’ll continue to keep you company through the Breastfeed Your Baby Successfully course and give you many breastfeeding heads up.